The Lonely Pulpit is the idea that being a pastor in a small church can be a lonely job. Without a staff to help with some of the many tasks involved, there’s a good chance a pastor can suffer from burnout. Here are some things you can do to help the pastor out and make ministry at your church even better.
Lend a Hand with Tasks
The Lonely Pulpit pastor wears many hats! They’re not just preparing sermons and offering counsel, they’re also often handling administrative duties and even keeping the building in good condition.
I know that when my wife was the senior pastor of a small church, she had no staff to help her. There were times when she was cleaning bathrooms before worship on Sunday.
Thankfully, she had me to help her with stuff like bulletins, children’s bulletins, graphic design, slide decks for worship, projection, and website design.
After three years of doing all of that, even I was hoping someone else would step up and do some of it.
Here are a few ways you can help lighten their load:
- Volunteer for tasks. Could you help with setting up chairs for an event, getting the church library organized, or stuffing bulletins? Believe it or not, those small tasks add up. Speaking of bulletins. How many of you are still printing your bulletins for Sunday morning?
- Offer your administrative skills. If you’ve got a knack for things like scheduling, communicating, or data entry, why not offer to assist with some of the church’s behind-the-scenes needs?
- Share your professional skills. Are you a plumber, an accountant, a graphic designer, or even an IT whiz? Consider offering your expertise pro bono when the church needs it. That can save the church money and, more importantly, save your pastor precious time.
- Drop off a meal. Sometimes, during a long day of ministry, they may even forget to eat. The simplest acts of kindness make the biggest difference. Dropping off a meal can be a thoughtful way to show you care and free up some of their evening.
One way a pastor can start to ask for help is by having the congregation fill out a spiritual gifts inventory. I have a free copy of a Spiritual Gifts Inventory that was offered by the United Methodist Church. They’ve since offered theirs as an online inventory if you’d rather do it that way.
The job of the pastor is to equip the Saints for ministry to the world. Not to run everything in the church on their own.
Be a Supportive Presence
Beyond the practical stuff, your emotional and spiritual support means the world to pastors.
A simple “thank you” or letting them know how a sermon touched you can go a long way. But give them some details. Don’t just say “great sermon.” Instead, say “your sermon made me thing when you said…”.
Tell them when their ministry is making a difference in your life! And please, pray for them regularly—for your pastor and their family. Pray for their spiritual well-being, for wisdom, and for their perseverance through the tough times. Sometimes, a pastor just needs someone to listen empathetically without judgment or the pressure to find a solution.
If they share a struggle, just offer a listening ear and a sympathetic heart. It’s also important to respect their boundaries. The Lonely Pulpit Pastor often feels this immense pressure to be available 24/7. Understand that they truly need time for rest, for their family, and for their renewal. So, respect their days off and their family time.
Sometimes, a pastor feels they must be perfect for their congregation. In cases like this, help them find an outside source they can use to have someone to talk to.
Invest in Their Growth and Well-being
A healthy pastor usually means a healthy church, right? So think about ways to invest in their personal and professional development:
- Support their continuing education. When’s the last time your pastor attended a conference or a course that wasn’t required by the larger church? If your church budget allows, encourage and support them in pursuing their educational aspirations. These could be professional or personal.
- Give them time off! Make sure your pastor receives adequate vacation time and encourages them to use it. Rest and rejuvenation are vital for avoiding burnout. This can be difficult sometimes. Pastors need to know others who can fill in for them on Sundays. After all, worship still happens, even when the pastor isn’t there.
- Encourage a healthy work-life balance. Help create a church culture where your pastor feels empowered to prioritize their family and personal well-being alongside their ministry duties. One of the biggest burnout factors is not enough time off. If your pastor is working seven days a week and in some cases, several evenings also, they’re going to burn out. I know that in my wife’s denomination, they are entitled to a sabbatical every seven years, allowing them to retreat and renew themselves through prayer, study, and rest.
- Offer financial support. It’s worth considering whether your pastor’s compensation is fair and adequate. This allows them to focus on ministry without unnecessary financial stress. The congregation is responsible for the well-being of their pastor. That doesn’t mean they need to live a lavish lifestyle. Still, they should have enough compensation to live comfortably, take a periodic vacation, and provide for their reasonable needs and wants.
Being a lonely pulpit pastor in a small church can be uniquely challenging, but it doesn’t have to be a lonely journey. By actively offering practical help, providing genuine support, and investing in their well-being, you can make a significant difference in your pastor’s life and contribute to a thriving ministry for everyone.
What’s one small thing you could do this week to support your pastor?
